Dating single men and women has finally become so accessible that anyone can now log on to the web and find a date. Thanks to the internet, there are hundreds of adult dating website offering you a chance to score casual sex with men or women by just talking to them from your phone or computer.
However, online dating websites do not change the traditional rules and etiquette. Here are some of the things you should be aware off. Having some knowledge of how people think over the internet will greatly help you getting in attached with them and winning their trust.
There’s tons of insecurity involved
Online dating doesn’t change one fact, men and women feel insecure over the internet because their afraid the person they are talking to may not be the same person in real life. To beat the insecurity, you need to do a background check on your own. Once you are satisfied the person you are trying to contact is honest, you need to start establishing a connection with them.
Before you take things too far, don’t be afraid to go for a personality check. It is perfectly fine to ask personal questions from the person you are interested in. One of the best ways to find more about this person is through getting involved in the community. Every dating website has some sort of a forum or a discussion board where members share their concerns. Ask around there and you’ll get plenty of answers. If all fails, use Google and see if the same person is present somewhere else. You may even end up on their Facebook profile which reveals a lot about someone.
Chat, chat and a lot of chat. In order to get to know about the person you are interested in, chatting is the best way to go. Invite them over to chatting software and start talking in real time. Online dating sites only allow you to send messages which can be tiresome for both of you. Chatting software on the other hand lets you exchange words in an instant with added features such as emojis. This will help you express yourself better and even find a thing or two about the next person.
When you have finally decided that you are ready to go for the next step, talk about meeting the person and make a plan to meet in a busy place so that nothing goes wrong.
If I’ve learned anything over the years that I’ve been dating, it’s that it is much more preferable to have her chasing after you, instead of the other way around. This is contrary to how it is normally. These days, women are inundated with messages by men on dating sites, they have their pick of the litter and can be selective with who they want to give their time to. But that doesn’t mean that you have to chase after her. Here are a few ways to turn that upside down and be pursued by her.
Make Her Want You!
The most important tip that I can give is to give her less of your time, or at least make it seem like your time is sparse and valuable. You can’t always be free every night at the drop of a hat. Make it seem like you have a full schedule, whether that is true or not. If you are always free any night, she’ll think you must be a loser and have no friends or no other interests. Fill your schedule with other dates, outings with friends and other activities and make her way work her way into your schedule. She’ll see that your time is valuable, maybe think that there are other women trying for your heart, and it will turn on her competitive side and want to get more of your time.
Another way to get her to desire you more and want more of your time is to be more confident when you are around her. Women are attracted to confidence, so don’t be a wuss. Keep an eye on your body language and the way you compose yourself. Don’t be nervous and fidget in your chair, instead sit straight up with good posture. Keep your head held high when walking and be respectful with how you treat others in her presence. She’ll see that you’re a confident man and be more attracted to you and want to spend more time with you.
The last way to make her want you more and start to chase after you is to have fun with her. Joke around and be a little flirtatious. If you can make her laugh and smile, she’ll have good feelings about the times she’s had with you and want to experience that again and again. If you can keep her smiling, she’ll want to be around you more.
Follow these simple tips and she’ll be going after you for more time together, instead of the other way around. Let us know how it works for you!
I used to be chasing after girls all the time. Any new girl I dated, I’d immediately fall head over heels with and shower her with love and try to win her over. A lot of times it just scared them away, too much too soon. Then I realized I was going about it all wrong. What if I made her chase me instead? Wouldn’t that be more ideal? So even when I was very much into a girl, I started practicing a few steps to make her try to win me over instead, and it’s worked wonders.
How to Make Her Want You
The first thing I did was not make myself so available. Whenever I started dating someone that I liked, I gave them all my time. I was ready to see them again immediately and at every opportunity. I’m guessing it became smothering. So I started filling up my nights and weekends otherwise with friends and other social activities and made her fight for some time in my schedule. When I was so available, it gave off the vibe that I had nothing else going on in my life. When I was busier, it showed that I was a man whose time was in demand and was a desirable person to be with. Women like a challenge, so make her fight for your time.
Another thing I started doing was a little playful teasing and flirtation. I’m not saying be a jerk, but have a little fun poking fun at her. When she does something cute, say that it was adorable and reminds you of your baby sister (or cousin or whatever). It has the impression of being a compliment, the being cute, but she’ll want to be seen in a more adult, sexy way and jab back to prove that she’s not a baby sister type. If she’s similarly playful, she’ll know that you were joking and throw some fun barbs back at you.
Lastly, I worked on my confidence. Women love a man who carries himself with confidence. They don’t want a wuss. So be measured in your movements, keep note of your body language. Sit up straight and with good posture. Don’t slink in your chair and fidget around. When you move, move with a purpose. If you carry yourself in a more confident way, she will take notice and you will be more desirable to her.
Those are just a few changes that I implemented and I’ve had much more success these days, and am loving having her fight for my time instead of the other way around.